Arpita has been highly energetic and deeply motivated in her life but one fine day she meets with a misunderstanding with her beloved Rajesh and that leads to a breakup that she never wanted to ever experience in her life. She moved ahead with it, but she was not completely over by this absurd behaviour shown by Rajesh who did not give her a chance to explain herself all those years she portrayed to be leaving healthy and happy but deep down she was lying and misguiding her feeling of rejection and loss. She did not want to accept that she is rejected, or that she has lost her beloved.
We all are some or other time in our lives feels or experiences like Arpita we have passed so many things which we have not buried and continues to keep them inside our heart and keeps on fooling ourselves the whole life that we are not feeling it that way.
Most individuals, especially those they care about, desire a sense of connection and belonging. It's unpleasant to feel unwelcome and unwanted by those people, whether it's for a career, a romantic relationship, or a friendship.
The suffering might also be quite severe. It seems that rejection activates the same parts of the brain that physical pain does. The reason why so many individuals fear rejection is indeed clear. If it's happened to you once or more, you undoubtedly remember how painful it was and worry that it may happen again.
However, being afraid of being rejected can prevent you from taking chances and aiming high. Fortunately, with a little effort, it is feasible to change this mindset Rejection anxiety is genuine. The things we lose out on as a result are also.
Here's how you release it from your grasp so you may open the door to the things that are too significant to let pass away without a fight:
1. Focus on what’s Important.
Whatever your focus on will multiply into numbers and those numbers into action, action into a mindset and it will further guide our motivation to be and act in a certain way. Humans are naturally risk-averse since our brains are designed for survival. This draws our attention away from what we stand to gain and more toward what we stand to lose. Whatever you put your attention on will gain significance. Catch yourself focusing on the possibility of rejection and slowly turn your attention to what you stand to gain. It's never a numbers game when it comes to the things that light you up. The only justification for not taking the chance is that it might be what propels you to an incredible place. All other justifications are irrelevant.
2. Accept the unaccepted
Accepting your fear of rejection and even being aware of it is one approach to overcoming it. People frequently criticise themselves for their emotions, which only serves to make matters worse. Consider someone anxious about attending a party, for example. They worry that others won't accept them or like them.
So, rather than simply observing and acknowledging that dread, these individual starts talking negatively to themselves. They criticise themselves for being so paralyzed by dread and unable to act normally. They could become caught up in a cycle of contemplating all the issues they face. Instead, try observing the presence of the dread without interpreting it or giving it a deeper meaning.
3. Cultivate the habit of positive self-talk
Indulge in talking positively to yourself. It will not only help you see the positive in words but in life and everything that you will come across. Rewiring the brain's neural connections to be more positive is possible with positive self-talk. Confidence and mood can both be elevated by positive self-talk. Despite its absurdity, it works! Consider repeating a phrase like "I am enough" or "I can do hard things."
4. Prioritise self-care
If one wants to become more confident, self-assured, and fearless, self-care is essential. If someone doesn't treat themselves well, it's difficult for them to value and defend themselves. Making self-care a priority is a method to convey this to yourself.
5. Control your emotions
Do your emotions control you, or are you in charge of them? Whatever the root of your fear of rejection, you may learn to control it like any other emotion. Discover how to recognise your feelings, acknowledge what they are trying to tell you, and then make a breakthrough. You'll discover how to overcome your fear of rejection in this manner.
6. Meet new people
Something might become simpler and more pleasant the more often it is done. Begin making introductions to everyone you encounter. Ask them their name as you shake their hand. This can appear to be very easy, but for someone who struggles with social anxiety or rejection dread, it can feel very frightening.
7. Change the narrative of your story
Once your limiting ideas about rejection have been dismantled, you may swap them out for empowering ones that will help you advance rather than keep you back. Stop talking negatively to yourself and start talking positively. You deserve a job you enjoy and a fulfilling relationship. You are still worthy of these things even if you fail. You can alter your life when you alter your tale.
Final Thoughts. While overcoming a fear of rejection can be challenging, it is worthwhile. There are so many fantastic possibilities, connections, and relationships in life that this fear may prevent. People who have fought for their entire lives out of fear of being rejected deserve to feel joyful, liberated, and secure.
Most fears of rejection rest on the desire for approval from other people. Don't base your self - esteem on their opinions
Harvey Mackay
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