Someone says something to us, and we are suddenly struck with a sinking feeling in our stomach. Someone does something to us and we become enraged or alarmed what happens when someone comes to us with a certain kind of attitude?
We mention the place, thing, person, or certain aspects of an individual which is associated with an unresolved issue or past trauma which immediately fills our chest and heart with anger, sadness, fear, or shame. We find ourselves in a situation in stimulus-response experience which happens to all of us.
The stimulus that we encounter ourselves is known as a ‘trigger’ or a ‘button’ which runs an alarm in our mind. For instance, we are suddenly surprised by a noise, and we are startled. The noise acts as a stimulus/trigger and the startle is the reaction.
List of emotions that can alarm your trigger your emotional self.
1. Rejection
2. unjust treatment betrayal
3. disputed ideas
4. being excluded or neglected, losing control, receiving displeasure or criticism
5. feeling suffocated or too needed feeling unwelcome or unneeded
6. insecurity
sometimes your body responds to emotional stresses.
In addition to heightened emotions, anxiety can also manifest physically as some of the following: a hammering heart, an unsettled stomach, shaking, or nausea
sticky palms.
Types of triggers
1. Anxiety
Anxiety triggers, as the name suggests, are episodes of intense agitation that appear out of nowhere. Anxiety triggers frequently include trembling, stomach discomfort, elevated heart rate, and worry. Additionally, making phone calls, trying something new, and going out in public are some frequent examples of anxiety triggers.
2. Anger triggers
Strong, unexpected anger outbursts are brought on by these emotional causes. These emotional triggers frequently have a traumatizing origin, and they leave people feeling out of control. Tension in the body and rapid, shallow breathing are indicators of rage triggers. Sometimes people will try to control their anger by abusing alcohol or drugs, which can result in co-occurring illnesses.
3. Trauma triggers
It might be difficult for persons who have experienced trauma to process their feelings. Trauma triggers can occur on their own or in conjunction with post-traumatic stress disorder for certain people. Avoidance behaviors, when people (knowingly or unknowingly) avoid circumstances that make them think about prior trauma, are frequently a result of these emotional triggers.
Identifying the emotional triggers
When we can pinpoint what makes us uncomfortable, we may take steps to safeguard our mental health. Even though we can't always avoid the events that could emotionally arouse us, we can take concrete efforts to look after ourselves and cultivate a powerful inner voice to guide us through these challenging circumstances.
When we are aware of our emotional triggers, we can choose to avoid situations that are bad for our mental health or digital information that can make us feel bad. To escape these circumstances and isolate yourself from the outside world is not the goal, though. Knowing our limitations and avoiding situations that could harm us and have a bad impact on our mental health and self-esteem are just two benefits of being aware.
How to deal with the emotional triggers that you face.
1. Know our pain
It's critical to realize that every emotion we experience and every place where we ache stems from reality in our daily life. While we shouldn't hide from these emotions, we should stay away from the shame and fully accept them. You are free to experience all your feelings and take as much time as you need, but you must also discover new coping mechanisms. Psychotherapy stands at the top for dealing with and knowing about your pain.
2. Cover the uncovered steps of your life
Try to go back and retrace the incidents that brought you to that circumstance once you've taken stock of your feelings. What did you do before you were so agitated? Was there a certain time when you felt the bad feelings starting to come on?
If possible, try to reflect on the circumstance and consider what might have angered you. It's acceptable if the triggering incident doesn't "make sense" because triggers frequently have roots in traumatic experiences and past events.
3. Repeat the process
If you are unable to pinpoint a trigger right away, try again. Since these emotions are frequently complex, it's not a failure if it takes several tries to identify a psychological trigger. Many people experience discouragement, but you may recognize these emotions even if they don't manifest immediately away.
You might benefit from receiving professional mental health therapy if you've gone through this process multiple times but are still having trouble identifying emotional triggers.
4. Allow yourself some space
Leaving physically can prevent emotional overload. Please excuse yourself if you need a moment to yourself. This can assist you in avoiding a reflex action that you might later regret.
Try some breathing or grounding exercises while you're by yourself to relax and soothe yourself.
The objective here isn't to fully avoid the situations that made you feel the way you did. Simply allowing yourself some time to calm down will help you deal with the problem more effectively.
5. Write a journal and note your mood
Keeping a journal of your feelings regularly might help you spot patterns, such as emotional triggers and periods when you are more vulnerable.
Perhaps you've noticed that while it's relatively simple for you to maintain composure when your employer criticizes your job, it's more difficult when you believe your partner doesn't want to spend time with you.
This knowledge can direct constructive transformation. Shutting down, which is your typical reaction to this trigger, typically simply makes you feel worse.
6. Get some help from therapist it will help you.
For most individuals, emotion regulation is a challenging ability to learn, and it's not always simple to recognize triggers on your own.
You may not even be aware of the harm your automatic responses to specific triggers produce since they have become so ingrained in your behavior. Therapy can be helpful if you are too close to your triggers to see them and address how they affect your interactions.
In therapy, you can investigate potential causes for your triggers and identify events that set them off.
The people who trigger us to feel negative emotion are messengers. they are messengers for the unhealed parts of our being. -Teal Swan
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