We are all aware of how our personalities are shaped by the thoughts and thinking we develop as children. Childhood is referred to as a delicate age to handle because it is a stage of life that may make things seem both lovely and distressing.
We as parents or mentors need to be aware of good parenting practices and how certain words or attitudes can negatively impact a child's development as well as their entire adulthood.
Certain attitudes of parents towards their kids are the root cause of their ill personality later in life.
What do children need?
Children need care that supports their overall mental health, including a positive sense of self, and that fosters positive emotional health and well-being. They also need care that helps them learn how to deal with stressful situations, control emotional arousal, face their fears, and accept disappointments and frustration. Children may manage emotional arousal, cope, and control behaviour with the help of parents and other caregivers.
They do this function by expressing love and respect, giving out encouraging words, and creating a sense of security. Support from parents reduces the possibility of internalising behaviours in children, such as those linked to anxiety and depression, which can hinder their capacity to adjust and perform well at home, school, and in the community.
What hurts the kids most?
There are certain attitudes or statements we as parents used to Convey our disappointment or anger towards the kids which are not only harsh but also self-sabotaging for kids later in their adult life.
If you compare your kid with others and start using statements like – you are not like your sister, your brother was excellent in academic performance, and look at you, you have nothing of him.
You are not a confident child.
Look at the children of your age
Don’t try to be so confident about yourself
You always must first know what you are and where you belong to
Words like this keep ringing in mind and their whole life kids tend to compare themselves they develop a sense of disbelief, misjudgment, and self-doubt about themselves. They often live in self-doubt and their whole life they are dealing with this. There is a loss of confidence in whatever they do.
It is detrimental to children's growth, development, and overall physical, psychological, and emotional welfare to act in a harmful way toward them.
Among the harmful actions committed against children: Using physical force against children, such as hitting, kicking, biting, or shaking them neglecting their physical or emotional needs, such as not taking sick children to the doctor, not providing them with enough food or water, or leaving them alone for extended periods. acting in ways that make kids feel unloved or unworthy, such as using derogatory language, yelling at them frequently, or harshly criticising them.
How can parents help their kids to bloom?
Knowing the fact that parenting and early childhood development play a crucial role in determining the personality of the child for his/her entire life. It is necessary to make sure that you do encourage your child to be a better version of their yesterday’s self and not a better version of someone with whom you compare them.
In cults, the habit of admiring the people around them teaches them what is ‘good’ and ‘bad’ or ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ parents are the steering wheel who drives the life of their kids ahead.
There are many facets to parenting. Parents need to gain both depth and breadth of knowledge to be able to meet the various requirements of their children, from being aware of developmental milestones and standards that support keeping kids safe and healthy.
increased care and assistance for children and teenagers. Be there to listen and converse. Inform children of their safety. Accept and acknowledge their feelings. Let them know that they will start to feel better in time.
Speak with your child's physician or therapist. To recover from traumatic stress, some people need treatment. Parents who participate in counselling can learn the best ways to support their children.
Never discipline your kids for hitting other people. By hitting your child, you are merely teaching him that it is acceptable to hit larger people. Eliminate any physical punishment, including spanking, if your child tends toward aggression. You can utilize a variety of various repercussions to assist your youngster to learn right from wrong.
Spend quality time with one another. Encourage children and teenagers to pursue their interests. These could be activities you can do with your teen or alone, such as appreciating music, the outdoors, or the arts. These things stimulate joyful feelings that lessen some of the stress from trauma.
Reward your child for being polite. Acknowledge her kindness, cooperative play with other kids, sharing of items, and willingness to assist others. Remind your child that people like to be treated with kindness rather than hostility. For each day they refrain from acting aggressively, some kids reciprocate by getting a treat or a star on a chart.
Your children will become depressed, full of self-doubt, sometimes even narcissistic, undervalued, not so confident, or self-conscious because of your impulsiveness, stagnancy, and poor socialisation. Many psychological issues can also be cultivated by your bad or poorly coded beliefs, attitudes, or mindsets.
When you decide to seek help, schedule an appointment with Dr. Bakshi.
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