The most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved.
Mother Theresa
Apeksha has a feeling of being so socially involved getting mixed with different people and individuals around such that she found herself too much in human interaction, but it so happened as times passed by, she felt a deep sense of isolation or estranged such that she kept feeling lonely while having dozens of people around her.
This feeling of being lonely, estranged, or isolated persists for a longer amount of time.
Do you know what is Loneliness?
Let’s first understand what loneliness is.
Even though it's part of who we are, many of us experience loneliness quite frequently. When one sees a disconnect between their desires and experiences of social interaction, they are said to be in a condition of loneliness.
People who are lonely experience empty, lonely, and unwelcome feelings. Lonely people frequently want human interaction, yet their mental state makes making friends more challenging.
The American Psychological Association defines loneliness as "cognitive distress or unease from being or perceiving oneself to be alone" (APA). According to the APA, it is the emotional discomfort we experience when our innate demands for intimacy and company are not satisfied.
Types of Loneliness
1. Emotional Loneliness
This kind of loneliness results from the perception that you don't have any connections or attachments. When everyone in your group except for you has a love relationship, you could feel emotionally alone. When you believe there is no one available to talk to about something important in your life, you may experience emotional loneliness. You could experience loneliness for the individual who left your life if your heart has been broken. You could be missing a close friend, a parent, a sibling, or another person.
2. Social loneliness
When you don't feel like you belong to any other group other than yourself, you experience this kind of loneliness. Even when you're in a romantic relationship with a person you value, you could experience social isolation. You can feel that you, or you and your partner, don't belong to a group if you don't have a larger social network. If you don't usually feel comfortable addressing strangers, you can experience social loneliness when you enter a gathering and don't recognise anyone you know.
Causes of loneliness
There are several causes of loneliness that contribute in a devastating manner to individual life.
Internal problems like low self-esteem can also contribute to loneliness. People who lack self-assurance frequently think they are unworthy of other people's attention or respect, which can result in exclusion and long-term loneliness.
A role for personality variables is also possible. For instance, introverts can be less prone to create and seek out social contacts, which can add to feelings of loneliness and seclusion.
The term "trauma" is broad and covers a wide range of situations. However, in general, trauma occurs when a very traumatic, unpleasant, or upsetting incident causes a persistent fear or anxiety response. If you were mistreated as a youngster, for instance, you can have a lifelong dread of others who share the same gender as the abuser. This could make it quite tough to meet new people and be around a lot of them.
Being assertive means being able to speak out for what you want while also being honest with yourself and considerate of other people. Because you can express your needs and wants openly, it's the most effective way to communicate. But it's challenging to create sincere, close bonds with others when you're afraid to be assertive and instead use passive or passive-aggressive communication styles. And when you're surrounded by people who you feel you ought to be friends with but aren't, that's a recipe for loneliness, to put it mildly.
The capacity to be aware of one's psychology, including thoughts, feelings, beliefs, expectations, and wants, is known as self-awareness. Like how feeling lonely typically results from not having a genuine connection with those around you, feeling lonely can also result from not feeling a genuine connection with oneself. Many people develop the habit of ignoring their minds and remaining diverted from their thoughts and sensations because they are fundamentally terrified of their minds. Low self-awareness and loneliness are frequently the results of this.
Effects of loneliness
The effects of loneliness can have a wide variety of symptoms that deteriorates the health and efficiency of the person.
· Sad and emptied out
· Anhedonia (unable to be happy)
· Lethargy (decreased energy)
· inability to fall asleep or sleep interruptions
· excessive sleeping
· reduced or absent appetite
· reduced assurance
· feeling unworthy
· feeling tense
· chronic pain in the body
· Being worn out
· a lack of drive
How to overcome loneliness
Loneliness adds beauty to life. It puts a special burn on sunsets and makes air night smell better.
Henry Rollins
1. Exercise: Being active does not always involve working up a sweat in the gym. You can keep your mind fresh and lively by just remaining physically active, for as by walking, doing yoga or Pilates, or dancing. A healthy body and mind are the benefits of an active lifestyle. It works wonders in the fight against depression. Try to schedule at least 10 to 30 minutes of activity each day.
2. Hobbies: Making time each day to indulge in a pleasurable pastime and develop your hobby can make life more bearable. It might be something straightforward, like reading a book, listening to music, playing an instrument, cooking, gardening, or engaging in arts and crafts. You might also attend meetings or join a club linked to your activities to meet individuals who share your interests. You can relax and unwind by engaging in hobbies.
3. Become accustomed to being alone: Being able to enjoy your company, spend time alone, and engage in your hobbies or other interests will help you get over your loneliness.
4. Healthy diet - Your brain's health can also be impacted by a healthy diet. Your physical and emotional health may suffer from a diet high in sugar, preservatives, and processed foods. 5 For a while, concentrate on consuming whole foods and see whether this might aid in your approach to getting over loneliness.
5. Keep yourself busy - Make a date with yourself to take your mind off those lonely sensations. Have you been putting off a home improvement project or a hobby that you've always wanted to start? Spend some time on your passions and self-improvement to keep your mind active.
Loneliness does not come from having no people around you, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to you.
Carl Gustav Jung
When you decide to seek help, schedule an appointment with Dr. Bakshi.
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