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Writer's pictureDr Bakshi

What To Do When Things Are Not Going Your Way




We all want something in life for which we are continuously doing efforts. But despite doing every effort we fail.


There are many things which we want to achieve but fail in achieving them & this leads to a devastating thinking of things not going your way.


Also every person has an imagination of how our life should be & what they want from the life.


Consider a scenario…. When you are a parent & want to have a good bond with your child but unfortunately you always end up having an argument & fight, no matter how hard you are trying.


Over and over you feel failure as being a parent.

Whenever you move a step to be better something happens & doesn’t go according to your plan.



Talking about another scenario…. When you are trying so hard for the promotion in the office as your colleagues are getting it with less efforts according to you but you are giving your best in every presentation & every meeting still things are not going your way.


Every person is appreciating you despite that you are not getting the promotion & you feel disappointed.



Questions to ask yourself


  • Do I constantly feel like a failure?

  • Is this right to think that way?

  • Why I’m feeling stuck in every situation?


What stops us from getting what we want..


Sometimes it is impossible to get everything what we want or what others have & because of this we feel upset, defeated & stuck in life which in turn leads to a situation where we feel nothing is going our way, we lose hope & give up the situation or the process.


But in short the truth is that we can’t always control the things & situations. It is not possible that everything goes according to us.


But losing hope is not good at that time instead we should try harder in a different way to achieve what we want.


Sometimes we expect that everything will go according to our plan until it doesn’t.




How to overcome with this ?


When things are not going your way, you feel stuck in the situation, you feel hopeless & don’t understand what to do with this.


To overcome with this there are some techniques such as healing, CBT(Cognitive behavioral therapy).


CBT(Cognitive behavioral therapy) is a technique which is based on your thoughts, emotions & actions which are connected. Also the way you think & feel about the situation can affect what you do.

It helps the person to overcome stress, anxiety, failure, depression, low self-esteem & other issues as well.



In CBT, problem is broken into several parts -


  • situations

  • thoughts

  • emotions

  • physical feelings

  • actions


How CBT helps in overcoming failure


  • helps you to be honest & open

  • let you learn from your failure & mistakes

  • give you a plan

  • helps you in understanding the situation & react accordingly

  • accepting challenges of life

  • taking action

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